Reducing anxiety - your first energy technique demonstration

This is your first patting demonstration on reducing anxiety

which will help you to relax and boost your confidence.

Remember that your ability to attract a soul mate increases when

you act your natural self, relaxed and confident.

Most visitors have come to this page from Romance Tips Three. If

you have landed on this page directly you will find an

introduction to this energy technique there.

This is just an example on reducing anxiety to start with

which will involve you recalling a memory that has some

emotion attached to it.

After this example you will understand how to use this energy

technique of patting to change your love life and you will be

shown other solutions at "Patting Central", but you need to

complete this page first to learn how it is done.

If it gets too difficult to understand and you want to fast

track your attraction chances you can always scroll back up to

here and book some individual sessions over the phone at Personal Help.

To focus on the memory of a specific event is a very

effective method of reducing your anxiety and fears because

your present anxieties (even small ones about going out or

meeting someone) come from your past experiences. As you start

reducing anxiety (or emotion) on past experiences you will

immediately feel more confident.

When you finish this example you will understand the basic

method of patting which you will eventually be able to do in 10

to 30 seconds with life-changing results that will massively

increase your soul mate attraction, your enjoyment of life in

general, your confidence in public and your ability to reach

your romantic goals.

Because this is a romance website it would be great if

you could go right now to a memory of when you met, or were

about to meet, someone you considered very attractive which

caused you to feel anxious at that time to use as practice for

reducing anxiety on a whole range of fears that you may

experience either now, in the past or in the future. This memory

must have lots of emotion, anxiety or stress attached to it, the

more the better. The anxiety that you feel when you remember

this event should be an excessive emotion or a negative emotion

which means too much excitement, or great fear, or

tear-producing joy, or embarrassment or out-of-control feeling,

or suffering from very poor confidence at that particular time.

It does not mean a normal level of anticipation. Reducing

anxiety on a normal level of caution will not work.

Do you have a good event in mind?

If not, try to go back to any time where you felt emotional, or

anxious or stressed, preferably when meeting someone or when in

front of people, or meeting a person of importance, a boss...

BUT PLEASE DO NOT GO TO A SEVERELY TRAUMATIC MEMORY -

WE WILL DEAL WITH THAT LATER, BUT NOT NOW.

Just to explain the difference, an event where you were highly

embarrassed or where you felt ridiculed is OK, but an event

where you experienced great shock such as being threatened with

violence is probably too painful to start with.

How to measure your stress level

to ten. Ten being the strongest emotion you could feel and zero

being no emotion at all while you recall the memory of that

event. This is how to measure your stress level by guessing from

one to ten how strong your emotions are right now, not back when

it happened so that reducing anxiety can be measured later.

If you can recall the emotion experienced at the time of the

event it means it is still with you and that is what you are

about to permanently remove. The memory of the event will always

be there, but you will no longer be affected by the emotion of

that event when you recall it. Write down your number

because it will change and you will not believe it unless your

write it down first. You can see a full explanation of your

Subjective Units of Distress (SUDS) which is your anxiety level

measurement at SUDS. Just before going ahead with this

demonstration you need to also identify if possible the type of

emotion/anxiety you are feeling. We will interchange these two

words frequently because in most cases on this site emotion and

anxiety mean the same thing.

Is it fear, anger, humiliation, annoyance, feeling

helpless or worthless, tear-producing emotion, joy, incredible

excitement or something else?

Can you feel it and name it?

You are about to remove all of that anxiety (for this specific

event) with this technique so when it is gone you will not be

able to feel it again (for that particular memory). Most people

cannot believe it. They keep searching for it after patting and

often say "it was just not a good example" because they cannot

feel anxiety on that event any more after the patting which is

exactly what you want. When it is gone a few things will happen

which you need to know about now or the demonstration will not

be an amazing experience for you.

Let's say that you felt like a fool when you finally met this

person and you identified the anxiety as "feeling foolish". When

it has gone you may still feel emotion, but this time it may

have changed to anger instead of foolishness which might be what

you felt after feeling foolish anyway, but now it has

replaced it.

When the main emotion has been dealt with and removed the

next strongest one pops up. But the two are different,

they are not the same, even though they happened one after the

other - you might have been angry with that person or angry

with yourself after the foolishness feeling.

Another thing that can happen is that after you remove

your anxiety on that event and you go back to your memory

to find it, your mind focuses on another event which was similar

or it could be different but connected in some way because the

original has completely gone. The other event is usually very

similar to the first one and can easily be confused with the

original which may make you think that you picked the least

important one first. You would be wrong (although quite normal)

to think that the first one was not very important. It is only

less important AFTER you have removed the anxiety on it.

Now can you see that if you did not know this information

you might think that the technique does not work when you no

longer have any anxiety or emotion on the memory.

Do not fall into that trap. If it has gone, it has worked for

you and it will work on other more important issues.

So three tips here.

One - focus only on one event.

Two - focus only on one part of that event.

Three - focus only on the main emotion that you felt at that time.

The whole event has many parts and each part has its own

anxiety. Just take one emotion that you experienced at one point

in that event. If you have not browsed through all the pages on

the navigation bar first it is highly recommended that you do it

now with this home page link Home.

Before proceeding you should have completely read through Romance

tips three.

Your first round of patting

because you are going to do them now as your patting example, but

they are listed below anyway or you can review them at patting

points. This section is also explained at Patting Round.

Setup phrase

general one and it would be great if you could use it exactly as

it is given here. Start patting continuously right now on the

Karate Chop point of one hand with your opposite hand. Keep

patting while you say this three times. Aloud is more effective

than silently.

"Even though I felt (whatever the emotion is) at that time I

accept myself anyway."

This is just stating the negative problem and adding a positive

affirmation to it. Say it three times while continuously patting

on the karate chop point. Now use a "reminder" phrase as you pat

approximately seven times quickly on each of the seven points.

An example of a reminder phrase could be "this emotion", or

"felt foolish" etc. Now start patting on the energy points below

using that reminder phrase at each point.

Eyebrow - "felt foolish" (or whatever your emotion is)

Side of eye - "felt foolish"

Under eye - "felt foolish"

Under nose - "felt foolish"

Chin - "felt foolish"

Collarbone - "felt foolish"

Under arm - "felt foolish"

That is called one round of patting.

Congratulations, this will change your love life as you read on - promise

will be shown ways on this site to help yourself succeed at

whatever you desire - romance, attraction, soul-mate, confidence

and more, this is just a beginning demonstration.

If you did not reduce your anxiety substantially check the reasons

why at low response or just continue on below because it will most

likely resolve when you do the "remainder" round.

Check your result before going on to the next round

emotion you feel as you recall it. Is it still there? Has it

been replaced by another emotion, has it been replaced by

another event, has the level gone down from say 8 to zero, or 8

to 2? Remember this is not mind over matter, it is a real

physical change caused by energy meridians.

If your anxiety on that event has gone to zero,.. Fantastic.

Well done. Whenever you remember that part of the event again

for the rest of your life you will not feel that emotion again.

It is gone. It was something your body was holding on to,

it was not necessary, it did you no good and now you are free of

it and it will help you to avoid that kind of feeling in the

future.

Remember that this is only an example, not a life-changing

experience - not yet.

Natural emotions and natural caution are not affected

excessive emotion can be removed using this method. You cannot

remove ordinary, normal emotion or natural caution because those

type of emotions do not affect your meridians so there is

nothing to balance out. If your emotion on that event has

gone down to a lower number, but not completely removed

you need to do it one more time with a variation which is very

common and doing it twice like this will be necessary for many

issues.

The "remaining" round

Round. Using slightly different wording in the setup statement pat

continuously on the karate chop and say, "Even though I

still have some of this feeling of ....., I accept myself

anyway." Say that three times. Now do the patting seven times

on each point again using the reminder phrase "remaining

feeling of ..." Check the memory again and it should be gone -

down to zero. If it is a one or two it might really be a zero.

The numbers are only an estimate or a guess. If it has

changed to some other feeling or some other event then

congratulations to you again. It has gone and now you have

another event or issue to tackle. Now you can chase any new

emotions or events that come up yourself using the above example

as a guide by patting again on the new feeling and the

new event if you want to remove those. Do as many emotional

memories as you can at this point for practice because it will

help you to remove the big ones later.

Instructions in brief

phrase three times, tap on each meridian (one round), then if

you still have some emotion left use the "still have" set up

and use "remaining" emotion on each patting point. That is

two rounds. Eventually, you will be able to say the set-up

phrase in several seconds and do the patting points in ten

seconds so it can be really quick. Now try this on any

other strong anxiety you had on any event, (except severe

trauma), just keep it specific to one emotion on one particular

part of one event and you should be very successful.

Anger is a good one.

When were you last angry?

When were you very angry?

After releasing this emotion on an event you often feel a weight

has been removed from your shoulders, you wonder why you got

angry, it now seems trivial or not important at all. A great

practice session is to sit back and recall an event in movie

form in your mind. Say your movie is of a party. Pat one round

on how you felt before going to it, then pat another round on

the first emotion you felt as you approached it, then try to

feel the emotion you had when you first entered the party and do

a round on that, then on any specific event at the party that

caused some emotional charge within you. If there were some

unpleasant feelings and you remove them all you will suddenly

feel free. Now you are ready to find out more about all your

patting possibilities at Patting Central.

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