Have these attraction situations ever happened to you?

Have any of these situations happened to you? You sense a strong

attraction towards a special someone that you had noticed. They

turn around, see you looking at them, and they smile. How

good does that feel? Or maybe this has happened.. A very

social, well-dressed, potential acquaintance notices your

glances towards them.. and immediately looks away with a frown

and disgust written all over their face. Is that not the

worst put-down? Well it has to rate right up there with the

other bad ones anyway, I am sure you would agree. Try this

scene... Another hot, sexy one has caught your eye and you

are trying to catch a glimpse of their face without making it

too obvious. They finally turn around and you get a good look.

Unfortunately, something about their features is the exact

opposite of what you were hoping for.. and you realize that

everything that glitters (from behind) is not gold.

But what about when a highly desirable, super-hot person

comes over to you and sends your spirits soaring into the sky

with excitement as they approach, ...until they speak to you

with a quarter of the IQ you thought they had? What a shock.

Their attraction level suddenly plummets. And what about the

person you had never thought to be the least bit interesting,

but once you begin talking at close range you realize that they

are very pleasant and you actually enjoy their company.

This happens all the time in the movies when two people

who cannot stand each other from a distance meet.. and after

being forced to work together, they become attracted to each

other and they fall in love.

Outward attraction cannot be helped, you are tuned to enjoy

certain things, you are human, and you are probably sex-mad too,

or you would not be normal.

The difference between distance attraction and close up

not be the same as those that turn you on close-up..unless it

is only sex that interests you, and the other person is

positively oozing sex appeal. That is hard to resist.

Still, you both have to be compatible to a certain degree to

have the right chemistry for each other. If one person

becomes uninteresting the sex part will probably not happen,

or it may happen, but be less than satisfactory with no further

prospects of getting together.

Attraction from a distance commands a lot of attention from

admirers.. who feel a strong emotion of some sort, probably an

over-active sex drive. This is not always the same emotion they

feel once they actually meet the person they were looking at, if

they ever do.

The reason for that is because the imagination works overtime

from a distance.. and the same person in a face to face

situation may not leave much more to imagine, they may not be

compatible in many ways so conversation is limited, their smiles

may be few and they may not be very interesting in their facial

features or their expressions, or their talk. Not to you that

is. You may IMAGINE that everything about them is perfect from a

distance where it is safe to just look, with the reality of

close-up perhaps not matching your imagined beauty.

This may be OK if you want to spend a life looking at the

other person from a distance, however the reality is that

most of your life with a partner will be close and personal so

do not worry too much about people viewing you from a distance

if your aim is to meet someone who is special to you and you to

them. What you both feel close up is much more important.

Your Aim Is To Be Desirable At Close Range

Let’s face it, you can dress well, have your hair styled,

wear accessories and generally improve your looks.. whether

you are a social butterfly in high society or a Goth (and if you

are a women check this site for some hot tips on how to apply sexy

makeup). It is important to a certain extent, but it will not get your

relationship fired up.. if there is no connection between you

and your potential partner at a more personal level. Up close

and personal happens when you have a meal together, it happens

when you are in a group together, when you are locked with arms

around each other, when you are in bed together. It happens when

you go out, at breakfast, lying on the beach or just talking any

time.

What really matters.. is how attractive you are in each

other’s arms. Do you both smile a lot? Do you talk easily? Or do

you just like to listen easily, are hugs and kisses reciprocated

with genuine affection?

"WHOA", you might say, we haven’t even met yet.. what about

that part?

Well you have to consider the close and personal bit to be able

to hold the other person’s attention, but it can be easier than

you think. First, you must feel relatively relaxed and

comfortable so that the REAL YOU will show through.. because

personalities (THE REAL YOU) are very important in the process

of meeting and in lasting relationships. When your

character-type shows through.. others will notice, and the ones

who are not naturally drawn to your particular type.. will

mostly stay away... sorry, because they notice too.

However, the ones who are naturally attracted to you will be

pulled towards you because of your personality style,

(especially if you wave and blow kisses to them).

Seriously, all you have to do is:

1. understand four character types, which includes your own,

2. be yourself and

3. be where some action is – at a party, a friend’s house, a

night out, a social event or even at work and also

4. get rid of your past hang-ups.

That is it.

That’s all there is to it and now you will find out how it is

done. It will all be explained to you in a way that you will

easily understand. The only part you will not be coached on is

the meeting thing, you have to be somewhere around other people

or it will be impossible and the closer you are to others the

better your chances.

The link to those four character types, also called behavioral

styles or shortened to personalities is Romance Tips One.

By the way, this mostly refers to romantic partners, not to

friends ..because you can have a wide variety of character

styles in your friendship group and mostly get along very well,

but it is rare for true romance to occur outside of one

character style as you will find out about when you progress

through this site. Another circumstance where personality

compatibility does not apply as strongly..is to persons under 16

because character types (personalities, behavioral styles)

develop more strongly with maturity even though you were born as

one type.

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