Attraction examples

Have any of these situations happened to you? You sense a strong

attraction towards a special someone that you had noticed. They

turn around, see you looking at them, and they smile. How

good does that feel? Or maybe this has happened.. A very

social, well-dressed, potential acquaintance notices your

glances towards them.. and immediately looks away with a frown

and disgust written all over their face. Is that not the

worst put-down? Well it has to rate right up there with the

other bad ones anyway, I am sure you would agree. Try this

scene... Another hot, sexy one has caught your eye and you

are trying to catch a glimpse of their face without making it

too obvious. They finally turn around and you get a good look.

Unfortunately, something about their features is the exact

opposite of what you were hoping for.. and you realise that

everything that glitters (from behind) is not gold.

But what about when a highly desirable, super-hot person

comes over to you and sends your spirits soaring into the sky

with excitement as they approach, ...until they speak to you

with a quarter of the IQ you thought they had? What a shock.

And what about the person you had never thought to be the least

bit interesting, but once you begin talking at close range you

realize that they are very pleasant and you actually enjoy their

company. This happens all the time in the movies when two

people who cannot stand each other from a distance meet.. and

after being forced to work together, they fall in love.

Outward attraction cannot be helped, you are tuned to enjoy

certain things, you are human, and you are probably sex-mad too,

or you would not be normal.

Attraction From a Distance vs Close Up

attraction you experience when someone is beside you or sitting

opposite you. Also, what caught your attention from a distance

may not be the same thing that turns you on close-up..

unless it is only sex that interests you,

and the other person is positively oozing sex appeal. That is

hard to resist. Still, you both have to be compatible to a

certain degree to have the right chemistry for each other.

If one person becomes uninteresting the sex part will

probably not happen, or it may happen, but be less than

satisfactory with no further prospects of getting together.

Some people are lucky enough to have an attractive body shape

and know how to dress to enhance what they have, but not

everyone has those features. Attraction at a distance commands a

lot of attention from admirers.. who feel a strong emotion of

some sort, probably an over-active sex drive. This is not always

the same emotion they feel once they actually meet the person

they were looking at, if they ever do. The reason for that

is because the imagination works overtime from a distance..

and the same person in a face to face situation may not leave

much more to imagine, they may not be compatible in many ways

so conversation is limited, their smiles may be few and they may

not be very interesting in their facial features or their

expressions, or their talk. Not to you that is. You may IMAGINE

that everything about them is perfect from a distance where it

is safe to just look, with the reality of close-up perhaps not

matching your imagined beauty. This may be OK if you want to

spend a life looking at the other person from a distance,

however the reality is that most of your life with a partner

will be close and personal so do not worry too much about people

viewing you from a distance if your aim is to meet someone who

is special to you and you to them. What you both feel close up

is much more important.

Be Desirable At Close Range

Let’s face it, you can dress well, have your hair styled,

wear accessories and generally improve your looks.. whether

you are a social butterfly in high society or a Goth (and if you

are a women check this site for some hot tips on how to apply sexy

makeup). It is important to a certain extent, but it will not get your

relationship fired up.. if there is no connection between you

and your potential partner at a more personal level. Up close

and personal happens when you have a meal together, it happens

when you are in a group together, when you are locked with arms

around each other, when you are in bed together. It happens when

you go out, at breakfast, lying on the beach or just talking any

time.

What really matters.. is how attractive you are in each

other’s arms. Do you both smile a lot? Do you talk easily? Or do

you just like to listen easily, are hugs and kisses reciprocated

with genuine affection? WHOA, you might say, we haven’t even

met yet.. what about that part? Well you have to consider

the close and personal bit to be able to hold the other person’s

attention, but it can be easier than you think. First, you must

feel relatively relaxed and comfortable so that the REAL YOU

will show through.. because personalities (THE REAL YOU) are

very important in the process of meeting and in lasting

relationships. When your character-type shows through..

others will notice, and the ones who are not naturally drawn

to your particular type.. will mostly stay away... sorry.

However, the ones who are naturally attracted to you will be

pulled towards you because of your personality style,

especially if you wave and blow kisses to them. Seriously, you

just have to:

1. understand four character types, which includes your own,

2. be yourself and

3. be where some action is – at a party, a friend’s house, a

night out, a social event or even at work and also

4. get rid of your past hang-ups.

That is it. That’s all there is to it and now you will

find out how it is done. It will all be explained to you in a

way that you will easily understand. The only part you will not

be coached on is the meeting thing, you have to be somewhere

around other people or it will be impossible and the closer you

are to others the better your chances.

By the way, this mostly refers to romantic partners, not to

friends ..because you can have a wide variety of character

styles in your friendship group and mostly get along very well,

but it is rare for true romance to occur outside of one

character style as you will find out about as you progress

through this site. Another circumstance where personality

compatibility does not apply as strongly..is to persons under 16

because character types (personalities, behavioural styles)

develop more strongly with maturity even though you were born as

one type.

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