The reasons behind a fear of smiling

Why you have a fear of smiling will vary with your behavioral

style and your experiences in life. It will be relatively

easy to reduce your anxiety about it and after that it will not

require much more effort to remove it completely.

Almost everyone who has NOT been trained to smile feels

uncomfortable smiling deliberately because of some of the

following reasons:

it either seems so false,

or the person smiling thinks it is embarrassing,

or that they will look like an idiot,

or that their smile is ugly

and they do not want to show it because it might frighten

people away rather than attract them.

Most of these reasons can be traced back to

someone you had respect for (or a bully) who had made a similar

comment in the past. You would have agreed unquestioningly

because of their authority amongst your peers and now it is in

the back of your mind when you smile. It may have even been you

that made those comments about others usually after hearing it

from someone else and agreeing with it.

What to expect after removing your fear of smiling.

Your fear of smiling stops you from feeling comfortable when you

smile at certain times. When you remove your fear of smiling you

wonder what all the fuss was about because you are able to smile

whenever you want.

You will have no trouble practicing your smile, perfecting your

smile and using your smile. You will be able to smile at other

people, for the camera, use it as a weapon to attract a partner

and you will feel great smiling at any time.

What to do next

times when you really want to be able to flash a big one and

make a great impression. You probably ask yourself why is it

that you can smile with your friends, but you find it difficult

to do in front of strangers or in front of a camera, or when

someone asks you to smile.

To fix that problem all you have to do is pat on the energy

meridians while you focus on each of the situations where you

cannot smile easily. To help you with your setup phrase see

the list below.

If you have landed on this page without learning how to do the

patting technique you can easily catchup by starting at Romance

Tips Three.

Setup phrase suggestions

Patting Round. While you look at these fear-of-smiling setup phrase

suggestions make your own list by writing down the ones that are

relevant to you from this list and also write down any others

that are not here, but come to mind as you read through these.

The ones that come to mind are particular to you and can be

important. You will then pat on each of them individually after

first putting them in an approximate priority order.

Here they are - just put "Even though.." in front of each

phrase and pat on each of the energy meridian points

smiling seems so false

smiling deliberately seems so false

smiling when I am not particularly happy seems so false

smiling is embarrassing

smiling deliberately is embarrassing

smiling deliberately in front of others is embarrassing

I will look like an idiot when I smile

I feel like an idiot when I smile

smiling makes me look like an idiot

my smile is ugly

my smile might frighten people away rather than attract them

it is difficult to smile in front of strangers

it is difficult to smile in front of a camera

I cannot smile when someone asks me to

I am not sure how to smile

I cannot seem to get it right in front of a mirror

my teeth are bad when I smile

my gums show when I smile

I cannot think happy thoughts when I need to smile

I cannot think happy thoughts when I need to smile because I am

angry about smiling

I am not confident that my big, flashy smile is attractive

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