Choose your own style from the four below before you try to recognize your soul mate

To recognize your soul mate you must first decide your own style.

The following information is a combination of Dr.Tony Alessandra's

"Relationship Strategies" and my personal observations and

knowledge from studying behavioral styles for many years.

This page will describe the types and their characteristics, but

you should go to Romance Tips Number One to follow the process in

more detailed steps to be able to recognize your soul mate at

first meeting. For now the four behavioral styles will be

explained so that you can get a feel for the different

personalities which are: Considering, Understanding, Determined

and Entertaining. Choose which one is the best fit for you.

1. Considering - Non forceful and non disclosing

about their personal or private lives, they are reserved and

like to be very sure about things. That can be just going out -

how and where, or when meeting someone or fashionable dress.

They are not naturally animated in either their body or facial

expressions, they dress neatly when it counts. They are usually

very economical and can be thought of by others as miserly, not

taken to making decisions based on popularity. Their decisions

are very considered and the more factual information they gather

before making a decision the better. Their work pace is usually

slow and they strive for thoroughness and precision. Most

considering types do not like change, surprises or

embarrassment. They mostly like to finish tasks, be correct and

work hard.

2. Understanding - Non forceful and disclosing

about their personal or private lives, they are reserved and

like to go with the flow. They are not naturally animated in

either their body or facial expressions, and they dress to

please others or attract others. They can be over generous, very

friendly, and often make decisions based on intuition. Their

decisions are based less on factual information and more on the

impact it will have on others. Their work pace is usually slow

and they strive for friendliness in most social and work

situations. Most considering types love change and surprises

while intensely disliking confrontation. They mostly like to do

what they think will make others happy. They are very loyal and

understanding friends.

3. Determined - Forceful and non disclosing

about their personal or private lives, they are reserved when it

suits them and very forceful and opinionated when ever they feel

it necessary. They are strongly task oriented and will do what

is required to get the result. They are rule breakers and rule

makers. They are quite animated with body or facial expressions,

they dress to be in strong fashion with power overtones.

Sunglasses are an intimidating must. They are usually very

successful and can be thought of by others as insensitive and

overbearing. They make decisions based on what it will do for

them. Their decisions are fast and strong and they usually have

the last word. If they are wrong or challenged they can easily

throw a tantrum and make a big scene. Their work pace is usually

fast and furious and they strive for hard work, and anything

that will lead them to the top. Most determined types do not

like to lose control so everything they do is meant to keep them

in control of the situation. They are very dependable and

reliable when the task is serious. They know instinctively how

to get things done and if they cannot do it they know how to get

others to do it for them. They are natural leaders, but poor

sharers of power.

4. Entertainer - Forceful and disclosing

their personal or private lives, they are never reserved can be

quite forceful and opinionated when ever they feel it necessary.

They are strongly task oriented and will do what is required to

get the result, but have a disorganized workspace and they

frequently get sidetracked by other people and talking. They are

rule breakers, but not necessarily rule makers. They are very

animated with body or facial expressions, they dress to be in

the latest fashion and quite often lead the fashions. Sunglasses

are an accessory must. They are usually quite successful and may

be thought of by others as the entire social committee in one.

They make decisions based on what it will do for their prestige.

Their decisions are fast and can be too numerous. If they are

wrong or challenged they can easily apologize and get back to

today's gossip. Their work pace is usually fast paced and they

strive for hard work, and hard play. Most entertainer types do

not like to lose status or prestige so most things they do is

meant to keep them in that position. They are very dependable

and reliable and look after other people. They know

instinctively how to get people together and enjoy the latest in

social events.

How to recognise your soul mate

If you have then can you recognize your soul mate?

The first key is that non disclosing types marry and disclosing

types marry. Then one is forceful and one is non forceful.

So, to recognize your soul mate you need to know that

ENTERTAINERS marry UNDERSTANDING types and DETERMINED

marry CONSIDERING types.

The gender of each type does not make any difference, but even

within the behavioral styles there are degrees for everything.

If a Determined type is very social and not as sensitive about

revealing personal information as most then the Considering type

they find as their soul mate will be similar in that they will

also not be as sensitive about revealing personal information

and they have some of the characteristics of the Understanding

style. This is because they have been brought up by

Entertainer/Understanding parents. Even though they are the

other two types they will have some of their parents qualities

too.

It is amazing that they can recognize their soul mate in each

other, but that is how strong soul attraction can be.

In Romance Tips Number One and Two you will discover how to make

certain observations when you first meet someone to be able to

tell which style they are within a couple of minutes. That will

tell you whether or not it is worth pursuing the relationship.

Being able to recognize your soul mate can save you problems

later when you find that your relationship is not working and it

can make it easier to choose the most suitable person if there

are multiple choices. Your skills to recognize your soul mate

will increase the more you use them which is easy to do at work,

when socializing, with your family and extended family,

neighbors and acquaintances.

When you do finally recognize your soul mate it will not

necessarily be the right one because of differences in maturity,

social standing, physical appearances, and other important

details that you need fulfilled. It will mean that you can at

least get along well together and communicate to find out more

about yourselves. If it does not work out you can find another

who might be more suitable.

There is not one soul mate for you, but there is a certain type

of personality that is your soul mate. You might be able to

recognize your soul mate more than once in a social setting

which would make it interesting. They would all get along well

with you, but of course they would all be a little different too.

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