How to overcome relationship inexperience and be very confident

It is easy to think that you are romantically inferior because

of relationship inexperience, but actually you could be a lot

better off than the people who have been emotionally scarred by

a bad relationship. Every person who enters a new relationship

is learning all over again because people are different and no

relationship is the same, especially with a romantic couple. So

it is actually normal to feel inexperienced no matter how

experienced you are.

The real problem is the fear you have. This anxiety can be

dissolved very quickly with the patting energy technique. Once

it has been removed you will feel completely confident. You

will not be experienced, but you will not suffer from anxiety

either. You can be relaxed and just make good decisions as you

normally would when you are not under any pressure.

Using the patting energy technique to feel great

setup, round and remaining round so that you can pat on all the

various aspects surrounding this feeling you have about being

inexperienced. You will have to make a list of the possible

aspects using these examples to jog your mind for more that are

relevant to you.

I am relationship inexperienced

I have never gone out with anyone

I have never had sex before

I do not know how to kiss

I have never been cuddled by a romantic partner

I do not know what to expect

I do not have enough clothes to wear

I do not know how to act

I will be teased if the other person finds out

I will be teased by my friends when they find out

I will be embarrassed & ridiculed

Try to make a big list and then prioritize the list from the

most anxiety on a point to the least anxiety. Start at the first

and use the technique below. When you have no anxiety left on

any of the points move on to the next one. The anxiety will get

noticeably less as you move down the list and the remaining

round may not be necessary on most of them.

The setup and a round

If you have not practiced the patting technique before you should

go to Romance Tips Number Three where you can follow through all

the instructions. Once you know the technique you can just use the

aspects list above for your setups.

Need a reminder of the patting points and the technique?

You can find that at The Patting Round.

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