Romance tips one - recognizing your soulmate

Romance tips one is the first of three romance tips that will

change your soul mate attraction levels forever. Take a look at

this simple and very accurate behavioral style analysis which

divides everyone into just four separate personalities which

will make it very easy for you to recognize your soul mate,

perhaps in the first few minutes of meeting.

To make it easier to understand the four styles are divided

between Romance tips one and Romance tips two.

because they explain why personalities are so important.

First you will find out how to identify your own style, then you

will use the give-away signs (behavior patterns) of the other

personalities to recognize your soul mate from a group. This

page - Romance tips one will go through one half of the four

types.

Behavioral styles explained

of the four behavioral styles, but you will not have to analyze

everyone to find out because you will learn the short

cuts. Surprisingly, some life-long partnerships are a

mix of the wrong types and it works although these are rare

which is explained later.

There are only two characteristics you need to understand

with behavioral styles so it will become very simple. You can

divide everyone you meet and know into two categories

(apart from male and female) and then into two ends of a scale

for each category. That makes four behavioral styles. This

Romance tips one concerns one half of those four styles which is

"Willingness to disclose personal information".

The second of the romance tips is about the other half of those

four styles which is "Degree of forcefulness".

Here is the first characteristic.

Willingness to disclose personal information

personal information which they see as being friendly and this is

is one end of the scale - "disclosing", and other people are more

guarded about sharing personal information and so they are

non disclosing.

The two ends of the scale are disclosing and non

disclosing. Which one do you think you are?

How to tell the difference

can talk and listen freely with other people who are also

disclosing and the same goes for people who are non

disclosing, but the two styles do not cross communicate easily

with each other. Often they will be able to converse quite

well for a while, after which it becomes more difficult. The

things they talk about are not the same.

if they like to share personal information.

Non disclosing people like to chat about goals, high

achievement, sport, success, facts, but not personal feelings.

Disclosing people talk about what they think, while open people

talk about what they feel.

So if you find talking is difficult with a new acquaintance

then there is a good chance that one of you is disclosing and

the other is non disclosing.

It is not because you are not attractive. The chances of

that partnership working out between a disclosing and a non

disclosing person is slim, it most often fails.

Even shy people who are of the same disclosure type can make

good conversational progress. So the first of the great

romance tips for attraction is that if you can talk and listen

easily to the other person you are well on your way.

It is a great sign.

It means that you are both speaking of similar things, or more

correctly, you are both speaking in the same style. So you can

tell different stories in a way that both of you appreciate

and enjoy. To expand on that a little, talking and listening

easily is not just talking and listening. It involves the other

person’s body language and their reactions too.

Listening is still communicating

much in return if they are comfortable listening. It is when

they become more uncomfortable the more you talk that you

probably have an opposite style in disclosure to yours. If you

are the listener, then what the other person says will either

make you feel relaxed or tense. Unfortunately this can sometimes

take a while to work out or it can be obvious a few minutes

after meeting, but at least you now have the clue.

Romance tips one is to determine first of all what your own

personal disclosure value is and to listen to as many people

as you can to determine theirs.

Pay attention to their willingness to disclose personal

information. I have worked with some non disclosing people

for years and not know their children or spouse's name, yet I

can talk reasonably well with them, and with very disclosing

people I have found out their family background, their personal

history, where they go for holidays and how they feel about many

things on the first day.

Look for how they talk about things - disclosing people talk

with feelings and emotions while non disclosing people talk with

factual and success orientation? Look for ease of

conversation - does it flow or is it short and clipped? If it

flows you are probably the same style which is great, if it does

not, it is a strong indication that you will always have

problems communicating. That is not good for a perfect love

match as we explained in earlier pages.

Communication is the biggest key. If you immediately communicate

easily and comfortably that is the best sign of mutual

attraction. If you continue to communicate in the same way then

it is almost certain that you are the same style of disclosure

and you are attracted to each other in general. It sounds

simple, and it is so you can see that it is not always wise to

chase someone with whom you do not have a natural affinity.

They will almost always be an opposite style.

How to practice identifying disclosing and non disclosing personalities

determining whether a prospective partner is the same style.

Here is a question to help you. Are you happy divulging

your personal details to others in an attempt to be friendly

and make them feel comfortable? If you answer Yes you are

definitely disclosing on the scale of willingness to disclose

information. If you answer "No, or, only sometimes", or "Only

after a while", you are very likely non disclosing on the same

scale. Out of your best friends, most will be the same style as

you. Try to take notice of how easily you talk to work

colleagues, acquaintances and strangers. Work out which of them

you find annoying and if they talk in terms of personal feelings

or facts. Then figure out which of them you get along easiest

with and try to determine their style because those little

practices will help you determine your style. When you are

sure of your style and you have picked the style of many others

you can practice guessing with people you meet for the first

time. It does not matter if they are the same or the

opposite gender.

The first hot tip is to make sure you are able to communicate

with a potential soul mate. Things will go much more

smoothly when you can and they will probably be your correct

soul-mate behavioral style for true romance. When you get to

Romance Tips Three, you will be shown a way that you can

increase your confidence remarkably and quickly so that meeting

people will become easy and relaxed.

But now go to Romance Tips Two and find out about the

second part of behavior styles to complete this section of

attracting a soul mate.

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