Romance tips two - recognizing your soul mate's give-aways

Romance Tips One and Romance Tips Two put together four

behavioral styles that you can use to spot your soul mate

quickly. It is easy, simple and very accurate. This page is the

second part of how to recognize the four behavioral styles.

First identify your own style, then practice looking for those

little give away signs (behavior patterns) of other people as

it is explained below.

Your soul mate will be someone that is your compatible behavior

style and who is within your area of preference which is age,

gender, body shape, social standing and any other important

criteria.

If you have not read all the pages before this one it would be a

good idea to start at the first and work your way through,

although it is not essential.

Behavioral Styles - part two

that is the important part of romance tips two and one, but you

do not have to analyze everyone to find out because you will

learn the short cuts for this second part just as you did in

Romance tips one and anyway, as I said before some life-long

partnerships are a mix of the wrong types and still work

although these are rare.

There are only two characteristics you need to understand with

behavioral styles so it is very simple. You can divide everyone

you meet and know into two categories (apart from male and

female) and then into two ends of a scale for each category.

That makes four behavioral styles. This romance tips two

concerns the second half of those four styles.

Here is the second characteristic -

Degree of forcefulness

the scale while other people are not forceful and prefer to

follow. The two ends of the scale are forceful and non forceful.

You should have already discovered in Romance tips one which end

of the scale you are for "willingness to disclose personal

information" so now you know if you are disclosing or non

disclosing. You need to decide if you are forceful or non

forceful to complete you behavioral style type.

Forcefulness behavioral style preferences

people, but they get along better with non forceful people in a

romantic relationship. This is the opposite of disclosing and

non disclosing where people communicate better with others of

the same type.

That is the summary of behavioral styles for soul mate

attraction. You will find that your perfect lover is the same

disclosure type as your are, but the opposite in forcefulness.

All marriages I have studied for some reason that I have not

been able to determine, are made up of one forceful and one

non forceful partner and it works just fine.

How to tell if you are naturally forceful or not

and hold it for a while when first meeting others. Non forceful

people maintain only intermittent eye contact when meeting

other people. This is immediately noticeable and is one of the

easiest giveaways to a person's behavioral style on a scale

of forcefulness. Another easy way is by voice volume. A forceful

person can be heard over the other side of the room when they

have deliberately lowered their voice because they are generally

loud and clear. In a crowded room the ones who are heard the

clearest over the rest of the chatter are the forceful

behavioral styles and as you might expect, they are holding

most of the conversation.

Non forceful, personalities have difficulty being

heard in a noisy environment and are not often able to project

their voice loudly and clearly. This is not true when a person

is skilled in speaking either naturally or by training so it

cannot be relied upon alone. At the opposite end, a forceful

person can also be very quiet when they are not sure of their

"pecking order", however once they speak, they can usually make

themselves heard quite easily, whereas a non forceful person who

feels uncomfortable will often just murmur when they finally get

a chance to speak and are frequently talked over.

I have wrongly identified couples many times because some people

are difficult to tell. If a non disclosing person has been

brought up by disclosing parents they will have a modified type

of non disclosing behavior which can be difficult to pick

sometimes. The interesting thing is that they will find a soul

mate who has been brought up similarly, so it can be easy to get

styles mixed up. However, everyone I have known is definitely

one style underneath which is why I am giving you more than one

way to be able to tell.

Some of the behavioral preferences can be identified in the

first few seconds of meeting while others will take longer to

recognize. On that same thread, the ideal human might be someone

who has taken on the characteristics of the other styles and

therefore has become a more "well-rounded" character as a result.

This often happens with business executives who can be more

difficult to categorize into one behavioral style, but when you

know all the traits you will be able to discover their exact

style too.

During conversation listen to the way a person asks or tells.

As a preference a forceful person tells while a non forceful

person asks. A forceful man may say "Please, take a seat here

madam", while a non forceful man may say "Would you like to sit

here please madam".

There is a subtle, but definite difference which may be

deliberately swapped around by behavioral styles, but as a

preference, when they are relaxed, in comfortable surroundings,

being their natural self they will revert back to their true

behavioral style preference.

Have you decided yet with romance tips two if you are forceful

or non forceful?

Another way which is less reliable is to determine if the other

person (or yourself) is a person who likes to lead or to follow.

As you might expect, forceful people are born leaders and non

forceful people are generally followers. Be careful here though

because many non forceful people are very competent leaders too.

The last way to tell quickly if a person is forceful or non

forceful is through the use of body language and animation.

Forceful people use gestures and facial expressions frequently

while non forceful people are most often more rigid and use

expressions and gestures sparingly. So romantic tips two for

attraction is that if you are the opposite in forcefulness to

the other person you will harmonize better as a romantic couple.

Putting Romance Tips one and two together

your perfect love mate, soul mate and romantic partner will be

the same as you in disclosure and the opposite of you in

forcefulness. Of course I have to remind you that I have seen

examples of happy unions where this is not true, but they are

rare. If you get along extremely well with your partner

do not even bother to analyze, but if you find some situations

difficult you might want to check this compatibility

information to find out why.

How to use personality styles to attract a soul mate

personality (or behavioral) styles to attract a soul mate is to

be natural. You will remember reading about this in the pages

on confidence. Soul mates are looking for each other all the time

so if you act naturally your behavioral style will be noticed

faster by your soul mates out there - male and female, it is the

same for both. Probably the first thing a person would look for

is physical beauty - and there is no one rule to say what that

is because it varies with everyone. The next thing is

behavioral beauty which shows a soul mate the subtle mannerisms

of another person's behavioral style. After that if the two

meet they may look for things they wish for in the other person.

It might be their sense of humor,

their bubbly personality,

their serious outlook,

their sense of confidence

their charm or

their neat and organized appearance.

After that it would be conversation - can they amuse each other

with small talk? At this stage it will be apparent whether they

are going to be able to get to know each other or not and much

depends on behavioral style compatibility. If you act naturally

and confidently (relaxed) less of the wrong types will approach

you and more of the right types will be attracted to you. This

applies to both sexes. Of course this has been happening for

thousands of years although many romantic partnerships in the

past were more of convenience rather than choice due to

availability of partners and also isolation, not to mention

culture.

What is important to you right now is that you can recognize the

give-away behavioral signs and make an early choice not to

pursue a person if they do not appear to fit into the right

style for you. Often times you will be unsure and the physical

beauty of the other person will be very strong so you want to be

with them, but you hesitate because something is not quite right.

Apply the rules and try to determine their style as quickly as

you can or just go over and meet them and look for the signs

as you talk.

"Romance tips - number three" will cure all your lack of

confidence and remove all your anxieties about dating, meeting

partners, and going out. That is the next step and it will make

the biggest difference to your romance success and your

happiness.

Go to Romance Tips Three

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