Romance tips two - recognizing your soul mate - part two

"Romance Tips One" and "Romance Tips Two" will make it very easy

for you to recognize your soul mate, perhaps in the first few

minutes of meeting.

Your soul mate will be someone that is your

compatible behavioral style

and who is within your area of age preference, gender, body

shape, social standing and any other important criteria.

By narrowing it down to one particular behavioural style it

makes it easy to avoid a disappointing relationship.

Behavioral Styles - part two

opposite to you in "forcefulness". This is the second of only two

characteristics that make up the four behavioral styles.

Here is the second characteristic -

Degree of forcefulness

the scale while other people are "not forceful" and prefer to

follow. The two ends of the scale are "forceful" and "non

forceful".

You should have already discovered in Romance tips one if you are

"disclosing" or "non disclosing", you need to decide if you are

"forceful" or "non forceful" to complete your behavioral style.

Forcefulness behavioral style preferences

with each other as long as one is not overbearing or too

dominant.

This is the opposite of "disclosing" and "non disclosing" where

people definitely communicate better with others of the

same type.

That is the summary of behavioral styles for soul mate

attraction.

You will find that your perfect lover is the same disclosure

type as your are, but the opposite in forcefulness.

All marriages I have studied are made up of one "forceful" and

one "non forceful" partner and it works perfectly, even if the

woman is the "forceful" style.

Which one do you think you are?

How to tell

Forceful people make strong eye contact and hold it for a while

when first meeting others. Non forceful people maintain only

intermittent eye contact when meeting other people. This is

immediately noticeable and is one of the easiest giveaways to a

person's behavioral style on a scale of forcefulness.

Voice volume - forceful

Another easy way to tell is by listening to their voice volume.

A forceful person can be heard over the other side of the room

when they have deliberately lowered their voice because they are

generally loud and clear.

In a crowded room the ones who are heard the clearest over the

rest of the chatter are the forceful behavioral styles and as

you might expect, they are holding most of the conversation.

Voice volume - non forceful

Non forceful, personalities have difficulty being

heard in a noisy environment and are not often able to project

their voice loudly and clearly. This is not true when a person

is skilled in speaking either naturally or by training so it

cannot be relied upon alone, you should use eye contact as an

additional clue.

Variations

A "forceful" person can also be very quiet (like a "non

forceful" can be loud) when they are not sure of their pecking

order.

However, once they speak, they can usually make themselves heard

quite easily, whereas a "non forceful" person who feels

uncomfortable will often just murmur when they finally get a

chance to speak and are frequently talked over.

Some people are difficult to tell at first because they are a

modified version of their behavioral style.

If a "non disclosing" person has been brought up by "disclosing

parents" they will have a modified type of "non disclosing"

behavior which can be difficult to pick sometimes. The

interesting thing is that they will find a soul mate who has

been brought up similarly.

However, everyone I have known is definitely one style

underneath which is why I am giving you more than one way to be

able to tell.

Ask or tell?

During conversation listen to pick up if the other person "asks"

or "tells".

As a preference a "forceful" person "tells" while a "non

forceful" person "asks". A "forceful" man may say "Please,

take a seat here madam", while a "non forceful" man may

say "Would you like to sit here please madam".

There is a subtle, but definite difference which may be

deliberately swapped around by behavioral styles to suit the

occasion, but as a preference, when they are comfortable they

will revert back to their true behavioral style preference.

Have you decided yet with this "Romance tips two" if you are

"forceful" or ""non forceful?

Another way which is less reliable is to determine if the other

person (or yourself) likes to lead or to follow.

As you might expect, "forceful" people are born leaders and "non

forceful" people are generally followers.

Be careful here though because many "non forceful" people are

very competent leaders too.

Body language & animation

The last way to tell quickly if a person is "forceful" or "non

forceful" is through the use of body language and animation.

"Forceful" people use gestures and facial expressions frequently

while "non forceful" people are most often more rigid and use

expressions and gestures sparingly.

So "Romantic tips two" for soul mate attraction is that if you

are the opposite in forcefulness to the other person you will

harmonize better as a romantic couple.

Putting Romance Tips one and two together

your perfect love mate, soul mate and romantic partner will be

the same as you in "disclosure" and the opposite of you

in "forcefulness". Of course I have to remind you that I have

seen examples of happy unions where this is not true, but they

are rare. If you get along extremely well with your partner

do not even bother to analyze, but if you find some situations

difficult you might want to check this compatibility

information to find out why.

How to use personality styles to attract a soul mate

personality (behavioral) styles to attract a soul mate

is to be natural and confident

because now that you know what your soul mate is looking for the

very best way to get yourself noticed is to be the natural you.

Your mannerisms are important, all you need is the confidence to

accept them without being shy about them.

When your soul mate sees those mannerisms (remember there are

many of your soul mates in every gathering) they will

immediately become attracted to you.

The biggest mistake made by most singles today

This does not happen when you mask your mannerisms because you

are not confident and you are anxious which is the biggest

mistake that singles make.

You will remember reading about this in the pages on confidence.

Soul mates are looking for each other all the time so if you act

naturally your behavioral style will be noticed faster by your

soul mates out there - male and female, it is the same for both.

Probably the first thing a person would look for is physical

beauty - and there is no one rule to say what that is because it

varies with everyone. The next thing is behavioral beauty which

shows a soul mate the subtle mannerisms of another person's

behavioral style. After that if the two meet they may look for

things they wish for in the other person.

Things you might wish for in a soul mate

It might be their sense of humor,

their bubbly personality,

their serious outlook,

their sense of confidence

their charm, or

their neat and organized appearance.

After that it would be conversation - can they amuse each other

with small talk? At this stage it will be apparent whether they

are going to be able to get to know each other or not and much

depends on behavioral style compatibility.

If you act naturally and confidently (relaxed) less of the wrong

types will approach you and more of the right types will be

attracted to you. This applies to both sexes.

Of course this has been happening for thousands of years

although many romantic partnerships in the past were more of

convenience rather than choice or falling in love due to

availability of partners and also isolation, not to mention

culture.

What is important to you right now is that you can recognize the

give-away behavioral signs and make an early choice not to

pursue a person if they do not appear to fit into the right

style for you. Often times you will be unsure and the physical

beauty of the other person will be very strong so you want to be

with them, but you hesitate because something is not quite right.

Apply the rules and try to determine their style as quickly as

you can or just go over and meet them and look for the signs

as you talk.

How to cure your confidence issues

"Romance tips three" will cure all your lack of confidence and

remove all your anxieties about dating, meeting partners, and

going out. That is the next step and it will make the biggest

difference to your romance success and your happiness.

Go to Romance Tips Three

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