Some of the prettiest models think they are ugly too

You definitely have "Ugly duckling syndrome" if you think that

way because the beautiful swan that the duckling turned into is

really you. I apologise if that sounds like motivating talk, I

really mean it, and here is why.

Beauty is more than skin deep. An excited, happy person who is

not born with the best features is twice as handsome as the

person who has stunning features and acts like an angry tyrant

all the time. Beauty means more than outward features, it

usually refers to the whole person so regardless of how you feel

about your looks you can be considered extremely attractive by

everyone if you follow the tips below. All you want is to be

loved and to be happy, without your self-criticism, you do not

need to have movie star features to achieve that.

When you have the "ugly" feeling, you will not be confident

about finding true romance either (it doesn't take an Einstein

to work that out). So here you will find out how you can remove

those feeling right now.. and go out with renewed energy and

confidence.

This tip will be broken into two sections. The first will zero

in on a specific negative thought and remove that, while the

second will attack the negative in a different way using

exaggeration and comparisons. After using the first method for

many appearance problems because you will have more than one,

you then use the second, exaggeration / comparison method to

soak up the rest of your more subtle negatives on this subject.

After completing this tip you should feel "great" about yourself.

Section one - using the normal patting round to remove specific issues

Decide what parts of your appearance you think are ugly or you

are unhappy about. Of course this may be a long list or it might

be only one item. If it is more than one you can write them down

in a list and use this technique on each of them

separately. Sure it can take quite a while to go through

your list, but it will be worth it. These are the things that are

holding you back from feeling confident and some will disappear as

you remove others.

Stress Level Test

as explained at anxiety level indicator. From zero being no stress

and completely happy, to 10 being really strong, negative stress.

Guess your level of stress on each negative and write the number

beside each one. You can do the whole list right now because it

will be of value to you to see how it changes. After completing

a couple of rounds you will find that the stress level on the

others will probably decrease a little even though you have not

patted specifically for those. You might also be surprised that

one may jump up and become more important as you remove some of

the others.

The Setup

statement three times. "Even though I am ugly, unhappy about (my

weight, my nose etc. just choose one) I accept myself anyway".

The Round

abbreviated here EB, SE, UE, UN, CH, CB, UA saying a reminder

phrase at each point which would be something like "my weight",

or "my ugly smile" etc. Just do one round and then check your

stress level number again. Has it gone to zero now or is it still

there? Write down the new number and continue with the second

round below.

The second (remainder) round

This time with the setup

insert the words "still have some of this". eg. "Even though I

still have some of this feeling that I am unhappy about my ....,

I accept myself anyway." Do that three times while patting on

the karate chop point. Now do the round once again, patting on

each of the seven points, EB, SE, UE, UN, CH, CB, UA using

"remaining" in the reminder phrase eg. "remaining unhappiness

with my ...." Now check your stress level number.

It should be down to zero. If it is not see the tips at low response.

Using the exaggeration / comparison technique

quite funny as you compare yourself with the worst cases and

exaggerate your faults. For instance how ugly is your smile

compared to the worst person you know? How overwieght are you

compared to the largest person you have seen? Using these two

examples below to give you ideas, you can try to develop your

own rounds. It all starts to make sense when you are patting,

while it all seems to be very serious before that. Here is an

example. As you say each statement swap to the next patting

point and just keep going round and round starting at the

eyebrow and working down to the under arm point and then going

back to the eyebrow point and continuing on.

More about this technique can be found at continuous patting.

Example:

EB - I have an ugly smile

SE - It is the worst I have seen

UE - but not as bad as ....

UN - that smile would scare the dead

CH - maybe mine is not that bad

CB - everyone who smiles looks happy

UA - it is not my smile that matters now anyway it is my weight

EB - I look ugly and terrible

SE - I am fat

UE - I wobble as I move

UN - it is embarrassing

CH - I cannot do anything about it except worry

CB - I feel like the lowest in my species

UA - even though all the important people

throughout time have been large

EB - it used to be a symbol of wealth

SE - a symbol of power

UE - I have neither

UN - but I am a nice person underneath

CH - I dress well

CB - I look after myself

UA - I have a nice personality when I am happy

EB - perhaps weight is not that important

SE - there are more ugly people than me

UE - there are unhappy skinny people too

UN - nobody is perfect

CH - big muscles do not please everyone

and so on, and so on. The pattern to follow is to state the

problem then exaggerate it out of proportion even put anger into

your expression keep saying bad, negative things about your

problem and you will find that quite quickly the patting will

eliminate those feelings of being ugly and you will suddenly

feel that your problem is not that big any more. Remember that

this is not brainwashing or mind over matter stuff, it is a

physical thing in your body due to your energy meridians being

unbalanced and you are correcting that. Keep going until you

reach this point. Then compare yourself to the best and worst

there is and you will understand that nothing is perfect.

Do all this while patting on the points. It will not

work otherwise. When you no longer feel any negatives

about your appearance problems you are finished. This will mop

up the more subtle negative feelings you have on the subject of

appearance. When you are done you will feel a great release and

your focus will not be as negative on your appearance as it has

been for a long time. Don't forget, email your friends about

this site, they need it as much as you do. Text your friends

about it so you can compare experiences.

Have fun!

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