Some of the prettiest models think they are ugly too..
it is all relative
Beauty means more than outward features, it usually refers to the whole person so regardless of how you feel about your looks you can be considered extremely attractive by everyone if you follow the tips below. All you want is to be loved and to be happy without your self-criticism and you do not need to have movie star features to achieve that. When you have the "ugly" feeling, you will not be confident about finding true romance either (it doesn't take an Einstein to work that out). So here you will find out how you can remove those feeling right now.. and go out with renewed energy and confidence. This tip will be broken into two sections. The first will zero in on a specific negative thought and remove that, while the second will attack the negative in a different way using exaggeration and comparisons. After using the first method for many appearance problems because you will have more than one, you then use the second, exaggeration / comparison method to soak up the rest of your more subtle negatives on this subject. After completing this tip you should feel "great" about yourself.
Section one - using the normal patting round to remove specific issues
You are going to follow the normal round below as explained at
the patting round.
Decide what parts of your appearance you think are ugly or you are unhappy about. Of course this may be a long list or it mightbe only one item. If it is more than one you can write them downin a list and use this technique on each of them separately. Sure it can take quite a while to go through your list, but it will be worth it. These are the things that are holding you back from feeling confident and some will disappear as you remove others.
Stress Level Test
Guess your stress level on each negative feeling on your listas explained at
SUDS anxiety level indicator.
From zero being no stress and completely happy, to 10 being really strong, negative stress. Guess your level of stress on each negative and write the number beside each one. You can do the whole list right now because it will be of value to you to see how it changes. After completing a couple of rounds you will find that the stress level on the others will probably decrease a little even though you have not patted specifically for those. You might also be surprised that one may jump up and become more important as you remove some of the others.
The Setup
Start patting on your karate chop point and say this setup statement three times. "Even though I am ugly, unhappy about (my weight, my nose etc. just choose one) I accept myself anyway".
The Round
Now pat approximately seven times on each of the seven points abbreviated here EB, SE, UE, UN, CH, CB, UA saying a reminder phrase at each point which would be something like "my weight",or "my ugly smile" etc. Just do one round and then check your stress level number again. Has it gone to zero now or is it still there? Write down the new number and continue with the second round below.
The second (remainder) round
This time with the setup insert the words "still have some of this". eg. "Even though I still have some of this feeling that I am unhappy about my ...., I accept myself anyway." Do that three times while patting on the karate chop point. Now do the round once again, patting on each of the seven points, EB, SE, UE, UN, CH, CB, UA using "remaining" in the reminder phrase eg. "remaining unhappiness with my .... "Now check your stress level number. It should be down to zero. If it is not see the tips at
low response.
Using the exaggeration / comparison technique
Now you can have some fun with yourself. This technique can be quite funny as you compare yourself with the worst cases and exaggerate your faults. For instance how ugly is your smile compared to the worst person you know? How overwieght are you compared to the largest person you have seen? Using these two examples below to give you ideas, you can try to develop your own rounds. It all starts to make sense when you are patting, while it all seems to be very serious before that. Here is an example. As you say each statement swap to the next patting point and just keep going round and round starting at the eyebrow and working down to the under arm point and then going back to the eyebrow point and continuing on. More about this technique can be found at
continuous patting.
Example: EB - I have an ugly smileSE - It is the worst I have seen UE - but not as bad as .... UN - that smile would scare the dead CH - maybe mine is not that bad CB - everyone who smiles looks happy UA - it is not my smile that matters now anyway it is my weight EB - I look ugly and terrible SE - I am fat UE - I wobble as I move UN - it is embarrassing CH - I cannot do anything about it except worry CB - I feel like the lowest in my species UA - even though all the important people throughout time have been large EB - it used to be a symbol of wealth SE - a symbol of power UE - I have neither UN - but I am a nice person underneath CH - I dress well CB - I look after myself UA - I have a nice personality when I am happy EB - perhaps weight is not that important SE - there are more ugly people than me UE - there are unhappy skinny people too UN - nobody is perfect CH - big muscles do not please everyone and so on, and so on. The pattern to follow is to state the problem then exaggerate it out of proportion even put anger into your expression keep saying bad, negative things about your problem and you will find that quite quickly the patting will eliminate those feelings of being ugly and you will suddenly feel that your problem is not that big any more. Remember that this is not brainwashing or mind over matter stuff, it is a physical thing in your body due to your energy meridians being unbalanced and you are correcting that. Keep going until you reach this point. Then compare yourself to the best and worst there is and you will understand that nothing is perfect. Do all this while patting on the points. It will not work otherwise. When you no longer feel any negatives about your appearance problems you are finished. This will mop up the more subtle negative feelings you have on the subject of appearance. When you are done you will feel a great release and your focus will not be as negative on your appearance as it has been for a long time. Have fun!
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