Reducing your biggest worry in life

Each behavioural style has a major worry (also called anxiety).

By now you will have identified your own behavioral style from

Romance Tip One and Two. If not, you can do that now at Romance

Tips One. Here is the major anxiety for each style

The forceful/non disclosing style is Loss Of Control

The non forceful/non disclosing style is Embarrassment

The forceful/disclosing style is Loss Of Prestige

The non forceful/disclosing style is Confrontation

It is OK to have this worry because it is part of your

personality, but it does influence everything you do

and it may become too dominant or too sensitive over time.

In a moment you are going to pat on your major worry to reduce

the sensitivity you have to it.

You can never remove it completely because it is part of your

make-up, part of your personality, part of who you are.

You can only reduce its excessive sensitivity which is always a

good thing.

Why is it important?

because it will make a difference to most aspects of your life

which includes your love life. Here is an example of an

over-sensitive worry about embarrassment.

Normally you would seek to be correct and you would be cautious

about making decisions until you were sure of all the facts.

That is very wise and a good thing, but when it becomes too

strong, you might put off making decisions for too long and

frustrate a lot of people and make your life more stressful.

To take a different worry, if you were anxious about being in

control you might become overbearing when meeting a

potential soul mate and frighten them off. These are just two

examples that illustrate how an over-sensitivity about the

dominant anxiety that you have can cause you problems when you

want to meet a soul mate. You do not want those problems, you

want everything to go smoothly and well. This time you will not

use a memory example, you will just start patting directly for

your worry as listed above. You discovered which combination you

were in Romance Tips one and two.

To start choose your main worry out of the ones above

or if you are sure which type you are just choose the fear for

that type. Start patting on the karate chop point and say three

times " Even though I have this fear of (loss of control, loss

of prestige, embarrassment or confrontation - pick yours) I

accept myself anyway."

Pat on each of the seven points with a reminder phrase for your

fear eg, "fear of confrontation" or " fear of loss of control"

etc. Pat now on these points

Eyebrow - EB

Side of eye - SE

Under eye - UE

Under nose - UN

Chin - CH

Collarbone - CB

Under arm - UA

Why you yawn or sigh during the patting or afterwards

for you. You will not yawn or sigh each time, however when you

make a big difference to your inner anxiety level this will

happen. You are not necessarily getting tired, you are just

relieved. It is a signal that tells you something big has

just left your body and it was causing you some stress that you

were not aware of during your normal day. The relief of that

stress causes the sigh or yawn.

It would be of benefit now to do the "remaining thing" you did

in the first example or you can see it again here. Try it now. Say

three times while patting the karate spot "Even though I still

have some of this fear of ... I accept myself anyway" and follow

that with.. the reminder phrase "remaining fear of ..." on each of

the seven points patting about seven times quickly on each point

as explained in patting points. Notice the difference in the setup

phrase, instead of "I have this....", it becomes "I still have

some of this...", and with the reminder phrase, instead of "this

fear of...", you say "this remaining fear of...".

You may not feel any different immediately like you will with

many of the other patting subjects later, but over the next

couple of days you will certainly act differently, more well

balanced, less stress.

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